I have reached the point in my life, and in the grieving process, where loneliness has set in big time. That leads me to some important questions, all of which can be summed up in the one question: is it too soon?
Recently, I signed up for some online dating sites. At first, I was just going to look for friends because I really miss having a close female companion. As the days went on, I started wondering what would happen if it developed into something more. After all, it hasn’t even been nine months yet. Am I really ready?
Normally, I don’t care much what other people think of the way I live my life because it’s my life, but this time I do. Will people think that I’m over Cindy so soon? The fact is that I’ll never get over Cindy. How do you get over your first true love and the love of your life? You don’t. You just have to learn to move on.
Would finding a new romance now (or soon) be disrespectful to Cindy’s memory? I would never want to do that. Not in a million years.
What about the woman I find, who seems perfect. What happens if I’m really not ready? Do I ask her to put her life on hold until I can get my stuff together? I could never and would never do that.
So far, I’ve been blessed that most of the ladies I have taken an interest in have had my best interests at heart and have told me to take it slow. I have, of course, also run into a few golddiggers who only see me as a breathing ATM, but that’s a different story and most of them didn’t come from the website; one I’ve known since my school days.
Still, at what point does it stop being too soon?